How can you have PTSD?

“How can you have PTSD?”

Hi,

I hear this a lot. And not just to myself, but to others as well. (It’s not like I’m walking around the street with a sight that say’s ‘PTSD’!)

I get the feeling that the average people don’t understand it.
Someone asked me that and said ‘I only thought people from the army get PTSD’
After a minute of open mouth staring I asked him ‘Why do they get PTSD?’
He said ‘Because the situation in war country’s is traumatic’
I told him ‘A lot of situations in Holland are traumatic as well’

He was quiet but told me I was right.

How the hell can people not realize this?
We are not a perfect country!

I did some research on the internet, and yeah, internet is internet but assuming I found the right statistics, and if it’s the truth it means;

  • In Holland every week a child dies because of child abuse
  • In Holland every year 350000 children are being abused (that are 3 kids out of every class)
  • In wealthy countries (like Holland) 5 – 10 % of the girls get raped during their youth. 1 – 5 % of the boys
  • In Holland every 30 minutes a pupil attempts suicide
  • In Holland are more than 100000 children a witness of domestic violence every year
  • In Holland 1 in every 20 kids, self harms.

source: http://informatie-kindermishandeling.blogspot.nl/2012/01/cijfers-kindermishandeling-hoe-vaak.html

You can’t be serious about asking the question how someone, who does not work in the army, has PTSD.

Holland, it costs our society about 3 billion euro’s every year to carry the costs of (the effects of) child abuse.

source: http://www.trouw.nl/tr/nl/4324/Nieuws/article/detail/1325681/2007/07/10/rsquo-Kindermishandeling-kost-de-samenleving-heel-veel-geld-rsquo.dhtml

This is a mad world..

But I wont give up.

xoxo
Brianna

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The children of the sun

Hi,

This song always makes me think its about abused children.

We’re coming from far
Over oceans of time
We’re coming from places we once left behind
We’re looking for love
In the heart of every man
We’re looking for reasons we’ll all understand

Chorus
We are (we are)
In need (in need)
We want (we want)
A place for everyone
We shine (we shine)
Through love (through love)
We are (we are)
The children of the sun

We follow our dreams
We’ll never stop
We follow our hopes
And we’ll never give up
Until we have found
The warmth of the sun
Untill we are born

Chorus
We are
In need
We want
A place for everyone
We shine
Through love
We are
For ever on the run

We are
In need
We want
A place for everyone
We shine
Through love
We are
The children of the sun

We’re coming from far
Over oceans of time
We’re coming from places we once left behind
We’re looking for love
In the heart of every man
We’re looking for reasons we’ll all understand

We follow our dreams
We’ll never stop
We follow our hopes
And we never give up
Until we have found
The warmth of the sun
Untill we are born

The children of The sun

(We shine Through love)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8f5PV5c86Uk

Am I the only one?
I do feel something beautiful can come out of this song. Awareness.. understanding.
Not just for the kids who are being abused right now but for the survivors as well. Could be someone who has just turned 18 and is struggling to deal with everything. But just was well someone who is 53 and is dealing/struggling with what happened.

Might be triggering!

I’m going to be honest, some are so damaged, and have none to little help, and they wont follow their dreams, they don’t believe in dreams.
When I was 13, I had a ‘dream’. I guess it was a dream. My dad always made sure I knew the importance of money. So I wanted to become a porn star. If it was up to me, I would have been when I was 13, but you had to be 18. So I thought; ‘ok, I’m going to be a porn star, I know how to do everything, I know how to get through it + I will make a lot of money’. Then I found out porn stars (the woman at least) have to be pretty. So that went out of the window. But then I thought of a whore. Yep, I wanted to be a whore, they earn a lot as well and don’t have to be pretty. So I thought I was able to pull that of. Doing the only thing I can do right, at least a little, pleasing a man.
I truly believed, 100%, that was my future job. The only thing I would be able to do. So yeah, it was my dream.
Nobody told me I had other options, to me there were no other options.
Looking back on that now, I think it’s a little sad. I truly believed, I was born for other mans pleasure’s. I am a person, but I don’t have rights, I have to please, I have to obey and be thankful that I can do that at least. No feelings whatsoever, that’s my job, that’s why I was born, that’s my mission in life.

I do think its weird a 13-year-old can think like that. It’s not okay to think like that. There’s nothing wrong with being a whore or a porn star, but it is, when you would be doing it for the same reasons I would have.
We have to help the children, or the adults who still believe like that. Because it is NOT true. EVERYONE has the right to exist, everyone has the right to say NO when it does not feel right, no matter who is crossing your boundaries. Everyone is a person, everyone has feelings and it is okay to express those feelings. Because you are worthy of that. You deserve to be happy and to be loved for the right reasons. You aren’t an object or someone’s possession. You are in control of yourself, don’t let anyone else control you/your life.

We will follow our hopes, and never give up.

I believe in all of you. I wont give up on us.

xoxo
Brianna