“Wow you’re so lucky, your mother is so great”
I had a birthday party quite recently. My birthday party.
I invited the girls over to my place, which was the first time for most of them.
They were all flabbergasted about the huge size of my apartment and the fact that my mum got this arranged for me. And of course I heard the sentences “you really have a cool mom” and “you’re really lucky with a mom like that”
A part of me was really hurt and another part felt like it wasn’t ok to feel hurt. Because it’s true right? My mum bought a house, so I could go live in it, before she could.
I talked to Justy about it (I talk to Justy a lot) and there are a few details left out above.
My mum bought this house so I could live in it = correct. (I still pay a lot of money every month to live here btw)
But.. my mom bought me this house BECAUSE I could not live with her anymore. And why not? Because she was living with her boyfriend (aka a replica of my dad). He triggered me so much, he made my life terrible. And she was not able to stand up for me. Whatever he did, it was ok. He chased away my sister.. my mom did nothing. I got hospitalized because of him, we had an argument. She did nothing.
So it came to a point.
Am I going to stand up for my daughter or am I going to have to get her a place of her own?
Yep, she chose the second one. I am really lucky with a mom like that.