No.. just no!



You know that moment when you wake up and you’re just like ‘no… just NO’. It was ridiculous!
Yesterday I had a very good day! Therapy was amazing, had so much fun with the girls, got to know them a lot better and had a good talk with Brandon. Talked about possible volunteer work, and I actually found multiple things I like!!!!
Went to bed happy.

But then I woke up today and felt like crying. I don’t know why? The only thing I wanted to do was stay in bed and sleep the day away. I called Polly and asked her if it was ok to cancel our appointment today. Told her what was going on, and I was really NOT in the mood to talk. Just leave me alone, crying in my bed. Well, she said it was ok, and if I wanted to reschedule for saturday I could call her. Then I went back to bed and woke up at 2 pm. Felt a little better. Woke up all sweaty though. Baby girl was very stanch. Practically sitting on my face.

Got out ย of bed at 3 pm and ate something. Listened to some music and now I’m on WordPress writing this. ( 5 pm)
I don’t even know what’s going on? I just felt SO terrible this morning without any reason. Such a good day yesterday, and then today.. BOOM. Crying, depressed, lonely.

Tomorrow will be a better day I guess.

There is not much on my mind, have been looking for some stuff on childhood trauma (actually looking for a book, which explains the treatment possibilities and stuff). But it’s really hard, well in Dutch it is.. I have one book called ‘Complex Trauma’ (Dutch book) and it was very helpful even though it’s meant for professionals, I understood it and it gave me more insights.
Maybe it’s not a good thing for me reading this, but I know me the best.. and I know my experiences, in therapy they don’t seem to want me to talk about them, so how can you ‘cure’ something of which you don’t know what the problem was.
I don’t think it’s as simple as ‘abuse’ > ‘A or B treatment’. I think it does depend on what kind of abuse and um especially how it made me feel and made me think. They don’t know that, so when I can find some tips on treatment or whatever, I would just really like to know. Dutch has my preference, but (easy! ๐Ÿ˜› ) English isn’t bad as well. So if anyone has some tips, please let me know!

Talk to Betty about this? Hell no. Monday I have this dissociation tests or something with her. So the next time I might be able to talk to her about it would be 11 november. Well uhm, if you want me to move forward like snail, yeah, I could wait. And when I talk to her on the 11th, she’ll probably tell me to stop focussing on the past.

Last time I spoke to her she didn’t realize that I’ve been self-harming for that long and how it made everything more clear about how difficult it is for me to stop. Well DUH, if you won’t let me talk about it, you can’t know.
Lol, getting really angry now. Not worth it.
So yeah, looking for books and of course I’d like to minimize the trigger-content, so not really something about someone’s experience and the details about the trauma. But more about the effects of it when you’re an adult and the (possible) treatments.


2 thoughts on “No.. just no!

  1. Well hello Bri! ๐Ÿ™‚

    What a coicidence the things you wrote! I thought today (seriously!) about sending you a

    helpful book (because I have two of them and I thought you can benefit from it xD) Shall I

    bring it with me when we’re having tea? xD

    Anyways, what I think is an helpful book about PTSD and therapy possibilities is “The PTSD

    sourcebook” from Schiraldi. I have the book and I find it really helpful. Everything is

    explained in clear English and I don’t think it’s hard for you to read.

    Also I can tell you a lot about possible therapy possibilities here in the Netherlands (I

    don’t know every English translation for it, sadly, sorry folks!). There is CGT (CBT in

    English); Cognitieve Gedrags Therapie. There is EMDR, which is proven extremely succesful.

    There is Exposure therapy, such as Flooding (building up fear in a safe environment, until

    it reaches its peak and then slowly fades (based on the idea that when you endure an

    emotion it will dissapear), Exposure in vivo or in vitro (Dutch terms), Narrative exposure

    therapy (also used with Complex Trauma), graduele exposure, imagineaire exposure

    EMDR, CGT and Exposure therapy are the most comon in treatment of PTSD.
    Then there is BEP (Beknopte Eclectische psychotherapie). STEPStraining, Stabilisatie cursus

    ‘Vroeger en Verder’, Linehan training (mostly for borderline personality disorder, based on

    dealing with emotions. DGT is similar (DBT in English), creative therapy. EFT. There is more if you want to know. The possibilities are endless, but like I said EMDR, Exposure and CBT are most common and proven most helpful (with EMDR at best).

    Then I want to say I completely understand why you felt bad today. I think you used a lot of energy yesterday. Possitive things also cost a lot of energy. I think you need to take some rest and then you’ll be fine.

    I’m thinking of you sweety!
    Lots of hugs <3333

    • Hi sweety,
      You have to copies of the same book?

      Thanks for all the possibilities! Right now my head is a real big mess but I’ll definetly save it on my laptop and read it when there is a little air up here.

      Thinking of you as well <333

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